A true friend indeed. One you have known from childhood. Then came the day when your friendship was tested. It was too painful for him to remain loyal to you.
In his own eyes – he would have suffered much loss while attempting to be true to you and your friendship.
Nevertheless you expect him to be true. And now you are devastated that you separated, and your friendship was split apart.
You couldn’t agree. You couldn’t forgive his actions. You can’t continue to argue to no avail. He did what he did. He did what he reckoned he just had to do.
Such is the human drama – the storyline differing from scenario to scenario, but the emotional conflict the same.
Write your own story to the tune of these words.
The script consists of – friendship – longstanding, conflict, disagreement, damage, hurt, separation, unforgiveness, and loss.
Human weakness that couldn’t handle the challenge of remaining true, couldn’t take the resultant disadvantage to the self, couldn’t embrace the ‘friends at all costs’ ethos.
The ability to disagree and lose the unity of friendship is common to man.
The sombre notes of dissension set in. On and on go the wrangling words trying to solve the situation.
The bickering eventually only stopping by separation and a long distance put between the persons involved.
It all comes from a nature man is born with. But many – don’t even accept this concept.
Where do wars and fights come from among you? Do they not come from your desires for pleasure that war in your members? 2 You lust and do not have. You murder and covet and cannot obtain. You fight and war…
The wars come from our desires, the old word is lust, – an uptight defensive, verbal hitting out at others – that catches alight – further, to sometimes awful consequences resulting in physical violence.
How is man capable of such friendship-destroying episodes?
He is capable because it comes naturally.
These words I found in a Christian song, by DC Talk:—
Tell me what’s going on inside of me – I despise my own behaviour –This only serves to confirm my suspicions –That I’m still a man in need of a Saviour
I could end the post here.
But before I do (having highlighted the problem) – the closing statements are –
God is not the author of confusion. It is Christ’s desire that all believers in Him as the Son of God – be one in Spirit – one in The Lord.
If there must be a parting of the ways – then forgiveness must be that choice of the will, and from thenceforth no abiding return is to be made to the former hurt and disagreement.
And when the person or persons find themselves re-visiting the hurts – they/we must consign these thoughts to the cross by faith.
Ideally all should reconcile as Christian brothers and sisters. But unfortunately the floor of the church is littered with broken relationships, and we can’t pretend differently.
We can only exhort each other to reconcile in humility, laying aside the right to be right.
Finding, and returning to what we all hold dearly, holding The Head from which all the body is supplied and knit in love.
If the other party(ies) won’t come with you to the foot of the cross again. Then you/we must keep our own hearts in the choice of forgiveness.
(see Colossian 2/19)